It would be obligatory for me to state this as a statutory
warning, that this article might have just too many taboo words for you to
digest with your evening tea. But with the right amount of sarcasm and some
perspective, I think the target audience should get the right message.
This is about my late Grandma. She belonged to the elite
group of people who used to crib about the luxuries life used to miss. Like the
hot water tap that runs the cold water, the push back seats in the bus that
won’t budge and coffee in the restaurant that wasn’t hot enough. So when I
decided to write my liberal views, her soul jittered out of her grave and through the thin walls of my apartment.
She was highly concerned about the way society was changing,
wobbling on the thin thread with their skewed morals. How she detested today’s
generation (including me) who went about slapping words like ‘Gay’, ‘Lesbian’
and ‘Sex’ openly!, using them as often as
endearments. “Shameless,” She said
turning over in her grave. She wanted me to understand certain “rules of
prosperity” that was set in her times
for a stable and healthy life. These precise rules churn the fabric of our
lives out in a blanket that protects us .Rules like
the natural curiosity to know about sex should be immediately crushed with a heavy dose of shame and embarrassment. Why do we
even want to know about sex? All we need
to know about sex is that you need to have it after marriage with a complete
stranger in an unknown house with or without the consent of the female. But no,
we instead want to have sex with our long term ‘lover’ (Another of the unholy
things common these days) in the comforts of the house we know, with mutual
consent. Now how can any of these be healthy?
It was fine as long we were sticking to the caste boundary
but no, we kids just like to push the boundaries for the thrill of it. Don’t
we? So now we are mixing it up with other castes and religions also. How can
that be any sensible is beyond her. How can compatibility, understanding and mutual
respect be above one’s caste or religion? As if it was not enough stretching of
the limits, we have come to a stage where we accept the concept of being’ Gay’.
OUTRAGEOUS! She said. We should be ashamed of ourselves. How can somebody
CHOOSE to be ‘Gay’? That is just against nature and God. And then we go about giving
the excuse that it isn’t a matter of
choice? How can it not be? I mean you and me choose to be straight. Right about
the time when puberty surged the hormones into our gullible system, we choose
to get attracted to opposite gender. Then how can they not choose to be
attracted to opposite gender? It’s abnormal for such people to find love or
even come out in open. They can affect other people’s choices of sexuality.
Don’t people become the type of people they hear or see around them? How can we
risk for such people to exist in our society?
She did wonder why she never turned out to be a nun studying in a convent
school. Since she was taught and surrounded by nuns; she should have turned out
to be a nun going by her logic, but nevertheless that was not her point here.
The logic of societies are not to be thought out but are to be just followed
blindly.
I promised her to abide her rules and wishes and she
peacefully went back to her eternal sleep. But I know she will return back when
a new wave of change appears in society again.
Now and then I see many such souls around me, feeling
unsettled by the route our generation is taking. While snipping through the
cold cup of their coffee they look down upon the world which has finally come
to a point where every person has a right to love the person they want and with
the gender of their choice. I apologize to all such people. And hope they understand
why I had to wrap my liberal views in the cloak
of sarcasm. Enjoy your tea time!
Love
Priyanka
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